Talking to Your Teen About Sex (Without Dying of Cringe)
Hello Friends,
This might be one of those newsletters where you need to take a deep breath before reading. I know that’s what I’m doing while writing it.
Yes, it’s about sexuality—and the importance of feeling equipped for those conversations.
And yes, you’ve heard me talk about this before. I’ve been teaching about comprehensive sexuality for over 20 years in a variety of settings, and yet… I still get nervous. So, let’s exhale together.
Do you remember the awkward (or nonexistent) conversations your parents had with you about sexuality, gender, your body, pleasure, and consent? My guess is pleasure was not a focus for most.
Did your parents differentiate between sexuality, sexualization and intercourse?? Very different words with very different meanings.
If you have zero memories of these convos, you’re not alone.
If you do have memories, but they make you cringe (or require therapy to unpack)… you’re also not alone.
Here’s the thing: Many of us grew up without open, shame-free conversations about sexuality, relationships, and communication. And now as parents, we want to do better for our kids. But, where do we even start?
Especially now, when the culture around our kids is louder than ever.
Sadly, girls are still extremely sexualized in media and everyday life. They’re expected to be desirable but not too sexual, attractive but not too confident, empowered but still palatable… Meanwhile, boys are sent confusing messages about masculinity, pressure, and performance. And all kids—regardless of gender—are growing up in a world where social media, porn, and peers are shaping their beliefs about sex before we as parents even get a chance to.
That’s why I created The Deep Dive.
The Deep Dive is designed to help moms of tween and teen girls, and those who identify as she/her:
· Talk about sex, relationships, and consent without making it weird
· Answer tough (and sometimes bizarre) questions with confidence
· Create a safe, sex-positive, shame-free space for your teen to learn and ask questions
· Ensure your teen gets accurate, healthy messages—and not just what they hear from friends or from the internet
This virtual workshop is fun, judgment-free, and packed with practical strategies to help you show up as the parent your teen actually wants to talk to.
Because let’s be honest—if they’re not learning from you, they’re learning from TikTok, their friends, or that one kid at school who somehow knows everything (but also, nothing).
This Deep Dive virtual workshop is happening this week, with limited spots. Grab yours now!
FEBRUARY 27th 12-2 MST and I will be recording the class.
Let’s make these conversations easier—for you and for them.
One tip to take on the go:
Our main goal is to be the person they want to talk to so remember these few things:
Kids DON’T talk to over protective parents with too many rules.
Kids DON’T talk to parents when they feel like they are talked at or talked down to.
Kids DON’T talk to parents where they feel the parent’s fear or judgement.
Kids DO talk to the kind of parents that are loving and warm, flexible and care about safety. Why? Because kids actually want to be safe.
I can help you become that parent!!
See you there!
With love and respect,
Deb
P.S. If you’re thinking, “But my kid would rather walk into traffic than talk to me about sex,” you’re not alone. That’s exactly why I created this. Sign up now!
